Forty may be the new 30, but considering the misconceptions about women's sexuality and desirability after a "certain age," you'd think 40 was the new 80!
Heart pumping, deep breathing—it's all good for you," says Carmella Sebastian, MD, a women's wellness and sexuality expert. Truth: Repeat after us: Enjoying sex isn't about how you look, but how you "You can have inner confidence at any weight," says Mc Grath.
That said, if you're not feeling your best, go for a brisk, 30-minute walk with your partner rather than have another helping of pasta at dinner.
And look on the bright side: This can be a time of experimentation and freedom with sex that you didn't have when young kids were underfoot.
"Introduce a vibrator, experiment with self-stimulation, try new positions," suggests Mc Grath. Truth: This one persists for good reason—it makes sense that you'd be more worn-out now than you were 20 years ago.
But it's more likely that "I'm too tired" is an excuse to avoid sex.